While I’m a big believer in goal setting, and a new year is a time we naturally take stock and reevaluate, it can also be an open invitation to criticize ourselves.
New Year’s resolutions can easily become a list of all the ways we’re falling short, written in disgust.
There’s no profit in demeaning yourself for the weight you didn’t lose, the yoga classes you skipped last year, the books you didn’t read, the debt you didn’t pay off.
I think I can sum up each of our 2013’s somewhat accurately: a combination of highs and lows, successes and failures, relationships built, relationships broken, acts of kindness, acts of selfishness, boredom, excitement, tears, and laughter. That’s life; it ebbs, it flows.
A new year presents a great opportunity to leave the past behind, to forge new paths, to improve and progress.
The things you hope will mark this year as different from the last? Write them down. Do it with hope and excitement, not desperation and discouragement.
Let your breath quicken, your heart leap, as you consider the possibility. Even if it’s just a whisper to yourself, let yourself imagine this year as different, better.
Hope because you trust the God of hope, not because your self worth depends on you becoming more.
2014 will have highs and lows, successes and failures. At any point during that ride, you are enough. You are already enough.
When you’re imagining the possibility and overcoming the hurdles, you are enough.
When you hurt someone’s feelings or
forget your grocery list or
feel sad for no reason or
make it to the workout class or
skip the workout class
or eat a kale salad –
you are highly valuable, and valued.
Goal setting is grand until I have too much riding on the outcome. When I’m crushed because missing a goal isn’t just about the goal, but about my identity and purpose and place in the world.
May your 2014 be your best year yet – not because of what you accomplish, but because you learn to accept yourself and push yourself at the same time. May you feel settled, satisfied, and secure.
May you know that you were bought with a price, long before you took your first breath, before you did anything good.
This post was written as a response to Holley Gerth’s Coffee for your Heart link up prompt: What encouraging words do you want the people you care about to hear as they begin a new year? Check out the other posts here!