Your value doesn’t depend on your accomplishments

While I’m a big believer in goal setting, and a new year is a time we naturally take stock and reevaluate, it can also be an open invitation to criticize ourselves.

New Year’s resolutions can easily become a list of all the ways we’re falling short, written in disgust.

There’s no profit in demeaning yourself for the weight you didn’t lose, the yoga classes you skipped last year, the books you didn’t read, the debt you didn’t pay off.

I think I can sum up each of our 2013’s somewhat accurately: a combination of highs and lows, successes and failures, relationships built, relationships broken, acts of kindness, acts of selfishness, boredom, excitement, tears, and laughter. That’s life; it ebbs, it flows.

A new year presents a great opportunity to leave the past behind, to forge new paths, to improve and progress.

The things you hope will mark this year as different from the last? Write them down. Do it with hope and excitement, not desperation and discouragement.

Let your breath quicken, your heart leap, as you consider the possibility. Even if it’s just a whisper to yourself, let yourself imagine this year as different, better.

Hope because you trust the God of hope, not because your self worth depends on you becoming more.

2014 will have highs and lows, successes and failures. At any point during that ride, you are enough. You are already enough.

When you’re imagining the possibility and overcoming the hurdles, you are enough.

When you hurt someone’s feelings or

forget your grocery list or

feel sad for no reason or

make it to the workout class or

skip the workout class

or overeat

or eat a kale salad –

you are highly valuable, and valued. 

Goal setting is grand until I have too much riding on the outcome. When I’m crushed because missing a goal isn’t just about the goal, but about my identity and purpose and place in the world.

May your 2014 be your best year yet – not because of what you accomplish, but because you learn to accept yourself and push yourself at the same time. May you feel settled, satisfied, and secure. 

May you know that you were bought with a price, long before you took your first breath, before you did anything good.

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This post was written as a response to Holley Gerth’s Coffee for your Heart link up prompt: What encouraging words do you want the people you care about to hear as they begin a new year? Check out the other posts here!

21 thoughts on “Your value doesn’t depend on your accomplishments

  1. What a beautiful, balanced, grace-filled post! I am so glad you’ve linked up to Holley today; I may never have found you. Thank you for writing such an encouraging post! Tweeting it out right now!

  2. This is wonderful! A phrase the Lord spoke over me in 2013, and I am taking with me in to 2014, is “You have worth because I am worthy.” Our value comes from what He did for us on the cross. Great post!

  3. What a beautiful reminder that we are valuable and valued! My weary heart definitely needed to hear this today! Thank you so much for sharing – I found you through Holley Gerth’s link up, and I am so glad that I did!

  4. Stepping in from Holley’s, although I wasn’t able to link up today. One of the things on my list I needed to give myself permission to let go. I really appreciated your words today. I have so many plans for my own writing space and personal life this year. It’s hard to balance it all while working full time. I am so thankful for the reminder that I am valuable! Blessings!

  5. My husband always reminds me (because I often NEED that reminding) that “my worth is not based on what I do”. When I’m not feeling well & can’t keep the house as clean as I usually do, or I’m too tired to make anything amazing for dinner, etc. This post was timely since those 2 examples happened this week! Thanks for turning my eyes back onto HIM rather than myself!!

    1. Heather, it sounds like your husband and mine are in some underground encouraging spouse club ;) I need reminding a lot, too. I’m grateful to have a husband who speaks the truth about who I am, even when I don’t believe him. I’m glad to be able to back up your husband this week and assure you that you are enough!

  6. Beautiful! I have learned that resolutions, met or broken, should not define who we are. Thank you for sharing this.

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