Who is The Balanced Wife, anyway?
First, let me say that a perfectly balanced life is unattainable, and even undesirable. Different seasons of life call for us to be out of balance as we focus on different priorities. When I talk about balance, I am looking at years rather than weeks or months. When the next five years have passed, will you look back and feel fulfilled in your relationship with God, your friends, your family, your husband and your work? If you have a family, you’ll also have your life as a parent to consider.
My definition of balance does not depend on the day-to-day, but the panoramic view of life observed over the years. However, as Gretchen Rubin of The Happiness Project says, “the days are long but the years are short.” If we want to look back on our lives with satisfaction and a sense of balance in five years, we must live each day intentionally.
So how does being a wife apply? Aren’t husbands and single people looking for balance, too? Yes, but I am fascinated by the role wives play in our culture, so you are the people I most want to connect with.
Millennial women (the generation born between about 1980 and 2000) seem to have more varied expectations for their lives and definitions of success than prior generations. Many women I know highly value their positions as wives and/or mothers, but have other pursuits and dreams as well.
For me, my role as a wife is an important part of my identity, and helps inform the rest of my decisions. I’m still learning what that role looks like, however. In a sentence, I’d say my goal is to find my place in a modern world as a wife shaped by the timeless wisdom of Scripture. What that looks like will vary from woman to woman, as God has placed within each of us different strengths and desires. As different as we may be, we can encourage and learn from each other.
This isn’t a blog about “having it all.” Frankly, I don’t think many of us want “it all” anymore. In general, the Millennial Generation tends to distinguish itself from prior generations by prioritizing quality of life over accumulation of status and money. Flexible work schedules may mean more than promotions, for example.
This blog is about prioritizing what’s most important, which means cutting out the nonessential to make room sometimes. Over years, balancing the essentials is possible when we realize that we don’t have to have it all or do it all.