This is a 31 day series on love over fear in relationships. Links to all the posts below. Scroll down to read the first one!
Day 1: Love over fear in relationships (scroll down)
Day 2: Love over fear, defined
Day 4: Weekend links
Day 6: Control freak
Day 7: The perfectionist’s fear
Day 10: It’s not about you
Day 11: Weekend inspiration
Day 13: Work, identity and marriage
Day 14: A safe place
Day 16: Love is patient and kind
Day 17: The fear of being misunderstood
Day 19: Weekend links
Day 21: The burdens we carry and ignore
Day 23: The root of people pleasing
Day 25: Weekend links
Day 26: We’re in this together
Day 30: Love rejoices with the truth
When I started brainstorming about a topic meaningful enough to write about for 31 days, generosity came to mind. I’m passionate about it, the applications are wide, and there are plenty of quotes and scripture for pretty graphics on the days I don’t write.
I had a whole plan, an entire list of topics. Neat and tidy, with a bow.
I write from one of two places: either I take something that I have a little speck of wisdom in, or I take a current struggle that writing will help me process. Usually, it’s a little both: some wisdom, some struggle.
Generosity, though a great topic, doesn’t strike either of those. When I started to get honest about what I’m really struggling with, and therefore what I’m really learning, it felt too close to the nerve to share.
Here’s what I need you to know: I didn’t choose this topic by looking back on my immature self and mistakes I made in relationships ten years ago. I’m not reflecting on how far I’ve come here.
I’m compelled by this because I see fear at the heart of almost all conflict, pain, distance, misunderstandings and breakdowns I’ve experienced in relationships, as recent as this afternoon.
I’m trusting that on the other side of the risk is a reward of freedom: freedom from fear, and a few more steps taken out of love, and not fear.
Writing words on the internet requires wisdom, and there are some things we shouldn’t share. We all fear exposure, to some degree. That fear of exposure is at the heart of this topic.
With this series I say, “I’ll go first.”
And I hope you’ll join me. Suggesting that we walk in love instead of fear is not my original idea. It’s not something I made up as a unique hashtag or a catchy title.
It’s the truth, and our relationships – our marriages, our friendships, our families – hinge on which we choose daily: love or fear.
This is the first post in a 31 day series for the month of October, all on the topic of love over fear in relationships.